“When I grow up, I want to be a…”
It is amazing how confident we are as children that ANY of our dreams will come true. We never doubt. We want it? Then we’ll get it. It is as simple as that! Then, as we mature, society teaches us that dreams come true in fairytales only and that we need to be serious and realistic in our desires and purposes. How often have we heard wise advice? “Get a steady job that will allow you to pay your bills”, “of course, cooking is your passion, but it is unrealistic to make it your job”, “You really write very well, but it is an unreliable job, you can’t make a living out of it..”.
Actually, we notice that a lot of us don’t get to realize their dreams. Some just forget about them and totally shift path and many others stop at a specific level on their way there. Why is that? In fact, getting out of our comfort zone can be very scary. We prefer to stick to the familiar pattern; it makes us feel safe and secure. We have a sense of being in control of the situation. This feeling is so powerful that it becomes even stronger than our desires.
So, we’d rather settle for a safe life rather than take a risk pursuing our dreams and face unknown outcomes. It takes a lot of mental strength to be able to fight our nature that seeks security.
Okay, let’s stop here and ask ourselves the REAL question: WHY DOES THIS OTHER WOMAN SUCCEED AT IT?
What is the difference between her and the ones who don’t? Why can’t some women be part of the ones who succeed at what they really desire?
It’s actually simple: she NEVER gives up and she keeps on BELIEVING in her dreams.
The little girl in her is still here and she doesn’t doubt that she will become the fairytale princess she planned to be. Of course, it isn’t an easy journey but her will is so great that she always finds hidden resources within herself to keep on moving forward. She gets worried and scared too, but she reminds herself of her purpose and it is more than enough to motivate her.
You can be that woman too. You can still believe in you dreams. Here are some steps you could start implementing in order to get in touch with you true desires.
– Take a journey back into your childhood and teenage years and remember what were those desires and dreams you believed it. Write it all down.
– Observe and notice how those dreams changed throughout the years and try to remind yourself what caused these shifts. Is it because they weren’t realistic enough or because your interests truly changed? Is it because they required money or because you chose to focus on your love life? Many reasons can lead us to revise our desires. Try to understand yours.
– Look at this list now and ask yourself which ones remain your true desires. Dive deep into your inner self and visualize yourself in any of the situations you listed. How does it feel like? Is it still what you dream of? Maybe life gave you things you never thought would make you happy, a family for example, and now your career doesn’t seem as important anymore. It is fine. What matters is how you feel NOW. Do you still feel that achieving a specific goal would make you happier? Well, start planning for it. Today is about discovering yourself and finding out what is true to you.
Many other tools can allow us to access this part of ourselves like journaling or meditation. Try to add those practices to your daily or weekly routine, it will help you develop your sense of insight.
Learn to listen to your heart with more confidence.
By Michèle Jabre